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Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Feb 18, 2019 | Replies (357)Comment receiving replies
I do try and realize they’re busy and I appreciate that. But when they do talk to me they could ask how I’m doing. At Christmas I didn’t even get a thank you for their gifts. One daughter didn’t open hers as she was overwhelmed but it’s been 2 days and I still haven’t heard anything from her. I also had gifts shipped for the baby’s birthday and if it wasn’t for Amazon I would not know they were received. It’s just hard ALWAYS being there to help, we’ve given lots of financial help and we do without to help. A thanks and being paid back would be nice.
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@kdo0827 I can relate to what you are going through. I have 2 kids, but they're a bit younger than yours (23 & 26). They are fully involved in their own lives, and don't have much time for their old man. Any time my wife and/or I start questioning their priorities, we always swing back to what we were like at that age and where our attention was. It was pretty much the same as where our kids are right now. Does that make it right? Nope. From a big picture perspective, though, the joy of being a parent today is watching them learn, grow and live full lives as young adults. I certainly wish they'd call or stop by more often. But their focus is on other things, and I completely understand. If that means a little less of this old fart in their lives right now, I can deal with that as long as they are happy.
And when I'm feeling totally left out, I simply butt in. I'm their dad. I get to do that.
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@kdo0827 sorry that does make you feel bad I would call them do they both work or do they need help from you?My circumstances are different but still not hearing a thank you ,hang in there grown kids are hard to read now days.