@merpreb ... My mom worries when her sister gets a cold... and it stresses her out to the point that is all she can talk about. She lives alone and has already had a heart attack so I rather be safe than sorry.. If things ever get bad where my life is in jeopardy or coming to an end, then I will probably tell her... I plan on maybe moving back to the east coast and would maybe tell her if I was near her, where she could see me physically and see that I look the same and am doing fine with the chemo I am currently receiving. It is a choice me and my sisters made, and they are near her, so they know how she is a worry wart.. but thanks for your input