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Gratitude Discussion Group

Posted by Debbra Williams, Alumna Mentor @debbraw, Nov 24, 2018

Hi everyone! Just before Thanksgiving @michellegraffradford posted a blog called Gratitude Changes Everything. She suggested three techniques to help incorporate gratitude into our daily lives:


  • Start the Day with Gratitude (before getting up think of three people you are grateful for)

  • Maintain a Gratitude Journal to record times when you are grateful

  • Count Blessings – not sheep! (Review the day and remember moments of gratitude)


Her blogpost was so inspiring that a lot of us decided we wanted to form a Gratitude Group to keep the attitude of gratitude going. The blogpost area is not an ideal space for a big discussion group so I am moving the discussion over here to the “Just Want to Talk” Group. Let’s use this space to share and discuss our Gratitude Journey. I’m going to suggest that we each try to take a minute from the day and post here what has made us feel thankful today. It can be as small as a stranger’s smile on the bus or as large as fulfilling a major life dream – or anywhere in between. We can also discuss how we are doing with the three techniques. Sometimes it is easier to form new habits with support from others.

Michelle's full blogpost is at the link below. You may want to review it or print it out to help get started!
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/page/living-with-mild-cognitive-impairment-mci/newsfeed/gratitude-changes-everything/
I look forward to hearing from others in the Gratitude Group and to having others join us here! Thanks to those who already shared great stories. If you haven't yet, what gratitude will you share today?!

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Just Want to Talk Support Group.

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Mar 29, 2019
In reply to @hopeful33250 "Take care of yourself, @gingerw. Be well soon!" + (show)
@hopeful33250

Take care of yourself, @gingerw. Be well soon!

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@hopeful33250 I will read as much as I can the next few days, but probably not do many replies. The symptoms were lined in favor of a severe sinus infection. One antibiotic shot in the butt [ouch!] plus an Rx for 10 day run of the same will hopefully set me to rights quickly. You all be happy, and pain-free because right now, I'm not, so you gotta pull the yoke for me.
Ginger

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georgette12 | @georgette12 | Mar 29, 2019
In reply to @parus "@hopeful33250 Sorry, That was another member’s duck. I do recall one like that but wasn’t me...." + (show)
@parus

@hopeful33250 Sorry, That was another member’s duck. I do recall one like that but wasn’t me. How funny. The mystery remains. I like this one as to me it conveys the frustration I am feeling at this time.

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@parus now that I've progressed to putting up my own profile picture I am noticing pictures . I must confess I really like the duck you posted! I don't see him or her as negative. I think it looks quizzical kinda. Just goes to show that it's all in the eye of the beholder. Like everything is. Quack.

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JK | @contentandwell | Mar 29, 2019
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@catmom777

I went to counseling for years, even after she told me she'd been molested for years by my ex-BF, and it didn't help much. I have been thinking of trying to find a minister to talk to, esp since I've had these brushes with my mortality. It's like a bridge I need to cross over and I can't seem to do it by myself.

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@catmom777 I doubt there are many parents alive who do not have some guilt about things they did and afterward regretted. Our kids are generally wonderfully resilient and forgive. If your ex-BF did something, then don't blame yourself. You did not do it.

As others have said, it is time for you to forgive yourself. You have made amends to your daughter as well as you could and she has accepted that if she lets you into your grandchildrens' lives. It is history, yep regrettable history, but it's done, your daughter has gotten on with her life, you need to also.
Hugs, JK

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JK | @contentandwell | Mar 29, 2019
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@gingerw

This morning I deleted all the posts from the last two day of discussions I have been following. I am very sick with [I think] a terrible sinus infection, worst I ever had. Grateful my husband is home today and will drive me to Dr's appointment soon. Carry on, my cyber-friends!
Ginger

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@gingerw I hope you feel better and perk up quickly. Sinus infections can be so darned uncomfortable.

A migraine too? OUCH! I am so thankful that my miserable migraines ended with menopause.
JK

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TERESA LOGAN | @quiteachiver75 | Mar 30, 2019
In reply to @parus "@merpreb The current profile photo was the request of @hopeful33250 as she liked the duck I..." + (show)
@parus

@merpreb The current profile photo was the request of @hopeful33250 as she liked the duck I used long ago. I had mentioned changing my profile picture again and she asked for the return of the duck of long ago.
This can be changed. I realize the dismal duck may appear a bit too negative. Everyone sees things differently. I see him as saying, "what next?".
Grateful some things have been found even though I feel they were ignoring the symptoms I was giving. The new doctor I am seeing looked at my chart and looked up from her laptop and commented about the depression and anxiety. I did speak up and told her I do not have a history of pain and fatigue with depression/anxiety. Thankful I could speak up for once. So now all of my maladies are because I of mental health issues!!! Mayhap I am too sensitive in this area. I did point out the recent CT of May 20. First thing she wanted to do was put me on a statin without any further testing. Then wanted to refer me to another specialist. I do know the hoops and requested further testing prior to doing so. She was not pleased with my request. Not my problem!
Why is it they ignore things until things become too severe to fix?! I am plum tuckered out going all these places only to be sent back to start. Grateful I did not lose my cool even though I felt like smashing the laptop!! Had I not pointed out the recent testing she would not have done a thing more. Will admit I was feeling snarky, but managed to hold my tongue as I am the mercy of the system.
Thank you again for your honesty. Can always count on thus. 🙂

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@quiteachiver76 : I FOUND THIS MESSAGE INTERESTING THERE ARE TIMES WHEN YOU THINK 🤔 YOU ARE THE ONLY ☝️ ONE WHO HAS THIS PROBLEM FROM ONE DOCTOR 👩‍⚕️ TO ANOTHER AND GETTING NO WHERE. IT HAS LEAD ME TO DOING A LOT OF RESEARCH AND FIND THERE ARE OTHERS WITH THE SAME HEALTH PROBLEMS “ FRUSTRATION “ PLUS

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Mar 30, 2019

Good morning everyone. Right now it's sunny and warmish in southern NE! Today I am grateful for the incredible need I have for finding things, sleuthing and being just plain nosy! I'm meeting a friend for early appetizers and a drink Monday night. I wanted to wear a certain top that I had purchased about a month ago. I had never worn it. It's a blue stripped soft long lantern sleeve jersey top. So I pulled all of my clothes out and they are on my bed right now. Yes, I have way too many clothes. I didn't see anything that looked like what I had remembered. I kept thinking that it was a light blue blouse. I went back into the file I have for purchases and found the order. Then I thought, I bet I put it with my long sleeve t shirts. Low and behold it's not a blouse and it's dark blue stripped! TaaaDaaa! My research and sleuthing paid off! I'm so just happy and relieved that I found this thing, but maybe it will be too lite to wear...

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catmom777 | @catmom777 | Mar 30, 2019
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@contentandwell

@catmom777 I doubt there are many parents alive who do not have some guilt about things they did and afterward regretted. Our kids are generally wonderfully resilient and forgive. If your ex-BF did something, then don't blame yourself. You did not do it.

As others have said, it is time for you to forgive yourself. You have made amends to your daughter as well as you could and she has accepted that if she lets you into your grandchildrens' lives. It is history, yep regrettable history, but it's done, your daughter has gotten on with her life, you need to also.
Hugs, JK

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Yes, I agree. Life sure does seem short now with my recent double diagnosis also. I figure I might have 10-15 years left and I don't want to spend them living in shame, fear, and regret.

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Debbra Williams, Alumna Mentor | @debbraw | Mar 30, 2019

Today I am grateful that I'm feeling better after a few days of dealing with either a stomach bug or the aftermath of my ordeal with taking a medication that caused stomach bleeding. Whichever it is - today I'm feeling better, it's sunny, and I'm going to enjoy the spring day. I'm also going to read back over all the gratitudes I missed here and I know that will make me feel even better. Hope you all have a great day!

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lioness | @lioness | Mar 30, 2019
In reply to @quiteachiver75 "@quiteachiver76 : I FOUND THIS MESSAGE INTERESTING THERE ARE TIMES WHEN YOU THINK 🤔 YOU ARE..." + (show)
@quiteachiver75

@quiteachiver76 : I FOUND THIS MESSAGE INTERESTING THERE ARE TIMES WHEN YOU THINK 🤔 YOU ARE THE ONLY ☝️ ONE WHO HAS THIS PROBLEM FROM ONE DOCTOR 👩‍⚕️ TO ANOTHER AND GETTING NO WHERE. IT HAS LEAD ME TO DOING A LOT OF RESEARCH AND FIND THERE ARE OTHERS WITH THE SAME HEALTH PROBLEMS “ FRUSTRATION “ PLUS

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@quiteachiver76 I like your profile picture cute .Yes I have gone to different Dr,s cause they don't listen to you so till I find one that cares I will go to different ones .I'm hoping my new rheumatologist I will see will be the last one I'll see. Since my first rd to today they haven't been treating me with that dx. At night my ankles pain me so bad it's hard to get to sleep I wish you well ,have a good day

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Mar 30, 2019
In reply to @debbraw "Today I am grateful that I'm feeling better after a few days of dealing with either..." + (show)
@debbraw

Today I am grateful that I'm feeling better after a few days of dealing with either a stomach bug or the aftermath of my ordeal with taking a medication that caused stomach bleeding. Whichever it is - today I'm feeling better, it's sunny, and I'm going to enjoy the spring day. I'm also going to read back over all the gratitudes I missed here and I know that will make me feel even better. Hope you all have a great day!

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Mentor- Glad that ordeal is over for you!

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