I also have some family who do not handle my emotions very well and will try to change the subject or leave the room etc. I think that is their issue. THEY aren't handling their grief very well. I truly believe that losing my husband has to be the greatest pain I have ever known. I cant expect others to understand the depth of my pain if they have not experienced it as well. I have given myself permission to cry when I feel like crying and to smile when I am happy . If I have a really bad day, so be it. I believe allowing myself to go through the stages of grief at MY pace is imperative to my healing. I am not letting anyone else tell me how I should feel or when my grief should be "over" . People who love you will allow you to travel this journey at the pace you decide and they will walk along the path with you. Hugging you from MO!