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Hello @maddiec
While I understand that this is a very difficult time for you, I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate all of the self-care you are giving yourself. You mention journaling and that is so important. You also say that you are part of a support group and that is wonderful, because it is important to travel down this road with others. You also recognize that this will not happen overnight and thereby you are taking pressure off yourself to be OK in a short period of time.
You are doing (and thinking) all the right things and I really must applaud you for your efforts and also thank you for sharing this journey with Mayo Connect.
If I may ask, how did you come up with so much wisdom in dealing with your grief? Any particular experiences that have created this strong mind-set and resiliency?
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Theresa..thank you for your kind words.
My husband battled pancreatic cancer for 2 years with such grit and determination..it was inspiring...when I would have my meltdowns with him he would stop me in my tracks and tell me to "cut it out..we have to deal with this..this is the hand I've been dealt."
As I go along this journey, I sense him telling me this to move forward everyday...
That is how I honor the memory of him...Do I have my Godawful moments..absolutely...but I keep them at moments, not days for that could turn into weeks and I won't let that happen. I look at those moments as minor setbacks..and that's to be expected.
I also have a tremendous faith which has been strengthened since he died..
I reach out to friends..I don't wait for them to call me...being with others gives me a respite from my grief...
I'm trying very hard everyday to move forward..it's exhausting for sure!