@dorisena None of us here are medical professionals, we just relay our own experiences. Your experiences with your husband were real and it sounds as if you did do some research on them yourself. My son and daughter both had ADD, my son ADHD, but it was never diagnosed until they were in late HS. My husband was opposed to admitting it, but I did a lot of reading and knew they did. My daughter coped fairly well in the school setting but less well in daily living, whereas my son is just the opposite. My point is, do not feel you can't speak of your own experiences since they were not officially diagnosed. This is a very understanding group of people.
JK