When a person says that only your doctor has the knowledge to diagnose you, that is a dangerous statement. I studied for years to figure out how to live with my disordered husband, and even though my doctor was interested, we were never able to get my husband any help. I resorted to pills at bedtime to get me through a traumatic life until I read on the web one night about Narcissism. I read until morning, shaking all over, and discovered that I could diagnose since I had lived with the problem for my entire marriage. No one in the family believed my stories that happened in private. My husband was a highly admired apparent success and even one son criticized me and said I wasn't demanding enough to get cooperation.. I lived in this traumatic stress for 50 years and can't tell my story to anyone or I will be called a crazy liar. My husband lied daily about everything in the end. I felt relief at times that he lived in a dream world because it brought comfort to his insecurity and misery at not being an automatic millionaire. He was economically illiterate most of the time and believed that money automatically comes in the door when a business achieves a certain level, without any effort or management. I survived with prayer.
Added to this, he was an alcoholic, showed signs of obsessive compulsive disorder, developed dementia, and showed signs of Parkinson's with his trembling. Oh, I forgot to add the untreated diabetes and the obesity and his denial of having any health problems at all until he died of metastatic cancer of the spine. I can say I never quit on the marriage because I knew there would be no one to care for him. I couldn't dump his care on my son. And I learned to stay safe. That is why I come to these help sites. I get satisfaction out of relating to the need of those seeking help. I can be on the team. Dorisena