Your Tips on How to Get Off to the Best Start with a New Specialist
I'm looking for your best tips.
Starting a relationship with a new specialist can be daunting. You want to get off to a good start and ensure that you establish mutual respect and are able to develop trust. You want to know you're in good hands. What is their expertise and experience? What research are they doing? Will they listen and consider your input?
How do you get off to the best start with a new provider? What suggestions would you tell a friend who is going to see a new doctor?
+++UPDATE+++
Your tips in action: Tips shared in the discussion below made this video. It's great advice: For patients by patients.
Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Visiting Mayo Clinic Support Group.
@rosemarya @hopeful33250 As Teresa said, doctors are people too, and I think they appreciate hearing we recognize that. My gynecologist is great, we always share a bit of personal info and one time I told him how fortunate I felt to have a number of very caring doctors. He stopped what he was doing and immediately responded that I was an easy person to care about, which made my day too!
Once on my way to my appointment with my surgeon, not too long after my transplant, I was thinking about the difference in me from the first time we met, prior to transplant, to now. I commented to him that it must be very gratifying for him when he sees patients so healthy after transplant, and he sort of beamed and said it really is.
I think many people do not see the human side of doctors so when a patient makes a positive comment like that they enjoy it.
JK
@marvinjsturing I was in that position when I was pregnant with my daughter. One doctor in the practice seemed sort of cold but I had to see him. When I expressed a concern he stopped everything and listened and reassured me. My opinion of him changed after that.
JK
My hip surgeon was the son of my old pediatrician that I saw as a baby. Having that kind of connection made me feel at ease. From the first face-to-face meeting I had with him. I felt confident that he could help me in my agony of constant hip pain. He did.
Ift’s best to write down a list of questions you may want to ask. Mayo doctors will take the time to answer them without making you feel rushed.
My husband's primary doctor was his father's doctor till his death due to cancer. The whole family loved him. When we needed to consolidate our medical insurance, I knew I had to switch mine because there was no way he would want to leave his doctor. He would go to him first for any medical concerns (the doc then writes referral for specialists if that is what is needed). That is the kind of trust between a doctor and a patient that we all want to have.
To follow up on my earlier post about writing down questions for the specialist. I had a consultation with a cardiologist this week. I had written down questions as I thought of them during the weeks prior to the appointment, then consolidated them and prioritized their importance. I also had copies of cardiac-related results he might want to refer to. The visit went very well and he and I were able to focus on my questions and their answers. One useful question that I included at the end of my list was: "Is there anything that I haven't asked that you think is important for me to know about my cardiac condition?"
tim128. Good final question. I will remember it. Thanks!
I am meeting Monday morning with a neurosurgeon at Mayo re a diagnosis of a brain tumor on the optic chiasm. Great list to use. I have completed several suggestions and am making my list.
kmart--I found it especially helpful to write down questions as they popped into my mind over several weeks, rather than waiting until just before the visit. That way, I didn't miss anything I wanted to ask. For me, having the written questions ( a copy for me, a copy for the cardiologist)made the difference, because I didn't have any questions unanswered after my visit. I also researched particular aspects of my condition so that I could ask informed questions. For example, "What role does collateral circulation play in coronary artery blockage"?
Thank you so much. I have been researching and need to begin writing down questions (so far only thinking of questions.)
@contentandwell