Like so many caregivers, I'm aging and changing. I had a bout of tachicardia and it was scary. My heart felt like it was going to jump out of my chest. My grandson, a junior at The Mayo Clinic School of Medicine, happened to be delivering groceries to us at the time. He listened to my heart with a stethoscope, took me to the emergency room, and I stayed overnight for observation. Could I continue to be my husband's primary caregiver? That was the question that bothered me all night. Someone on the health care team thought I might need valve repair surgery. I saw a Mayo Clinic heart valve specialist and he prescribed medication instead. We had already paid a deposit at one assisted living community. This incident prompted us to pay a deposit to a second community. Staying in our wheelchair-friendly townhome is the best option for us. However, this option works only as long as my health is good. Right now I feel great.