I have had PNE for 18 years. Your description about the two by four applies to me only in another private location. I have tried everything known to man i.e. Narcotics; Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy; a very invasive surgery on both sides (incisions are on each butt cheek) which I travelled from Kentucky to Minnesota (not Mayo but a PNE Clinic I think in Irmo Minnesota operated by Dr. Stanley Antolak who specializes in PNE but may be retired by now); a spinal cord stimulator implant which also failed and was later surgically removed; external lidocaine ointment; you name it and I have probably tried it. Here is how I got relief. At least enough relief to be able to function and a significant reduction in my pain. I have an implanted medication infusion system. It is made by Medtronic if you want to read about it. In order to get the surgery I had to wean off of all narcotic pain meds and be off for six weeks. The pump is placed in the left side of the abdomen and a tube is run to your spinal cord. It delivers a tiny amount of morphine and marcaine (all completely implanted and controlled by your doctor). The difference between this and narcotic pills is the amount is so tiny that you don’t get the systemic effects of narcotics. It continuously pumps a small amount of the drugs into your spinal cord where it blocks the pain signals going to your brain. They last about six years (battery life) and depending on your dose need to be refilled about every 75-90 days (refills are a simple procedure with a needle). I also take Gabapentin to supplement that. If it weren’t for that my pain was so bad I had considered suicide many times. I have also found that stress is a big factor. I am on my second pump (had one about ten years) and without it I don’t think I could have survived the pain and it’s delicate location. I completely understand your living in private pain. I still have pain so I don’t want to imply this is a complete fix because it isn’t but it made a big enough difference to allow me to live a mostly normal life. There are days when I have very little pain (almost none) and there are days I have pain that is worse. I discovered the relationship to stress just due to time and experience. I ended up getting a divorce after 13 years recently because the stress of staying in a volatile marriage was having a huge effect on my pain levels (another example of the stress factor). If you decide to investigate go to a large university pain management department or a reputable pain management facility. My insurance covered the surgery and the ongoing refills. The pump saved my life. If you have any questions just ask.