When my mother was put into memory care my father could not go and see her. It took close to two months before he could. I visited with my pastor and he said that he was grieving. That this loss was almost as if she had died. He was alone. Luckily my dad is pretty social and lives in an independent living building. My mom was in memory care for close to two years before she passed away. He visited her daily and still visits the unit occasionally to talk with those he knows. What helped my dad the most was visiting with the Pastor at the care facility and continuing to attend worship services. You start with baby steps. If you attended church, go back, attend worship and coffee and go home. Just an idea. Prayers for you.