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Chronic pain and spinal fusion
Spine Health | Last Active: Apr 4, 2023 | Replies (173)Comment receiving replies
@hopekeeper, what a great introduction, welcome to Connect. I have entirely different reasons for my chronic pain, but have also had major joint surgeries and continued pain. I also talk about it sparingly. I know my family and friends care, but I am also aware of the "zoned out" look you can sometimes get from them because they either can't understand or are possibly tired of hearing it. It is a fine line to walk isn't it? Do you talk about it because it makes you feel better to get it out, even if it risks people "getting tired" of hearing it (whether they admit it or not)?
You have found a great place where members will not get tired of listening and where members do understand what you are going through. I look forward to seeing you participate in the discussions more!
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I totally agree about not talking about my pain to my family. I feel like they don’t want to hear me complain and it doesn’t change my pain level. I simply take my meds and keep to myself. I have found solace here in knowing I can complain if I want and I can ask questions. There’s no judgement here so feel free to be whoever you feel like being. God Bless!
Thanks Justin! I don't talk about it for several reasons...yes, the zoned out response, which I completely understand. Another reason is that it makes me feel weak. I have always been VERY strong, frightening for some (ha!), but I can tell the difference and I actually find it embarrassing, as ridiculous and vain as that sounds. My shortcoming is really that I KNOW some things that I can do, but I've lost my moxie and can't figure out where I put it! Low mood from all of this going on for so long has really hurt me (and yes, I am on a low dose of Zoloft, which is garbage, but I can't seem to get anyone's attention about that either). Geez, I sound very whiney... @grandmar, Agreed, on the problem of getting a good doc to listen...there seems to be a "shut down" if you are on pain meds and needing to discuss pain. Even tho' I am with a pain clinic and don't need anything from a PC, still, there is a bit of a "zone out" from them, as well. I have pretty much shut down, myself, which makes finding this forum a really good thing! I need to get amped up by those who get it, so that maybe I can get a little push to fight for myself. That just sounds so stupid coming from ME!!!! That actually made me chuckle typing it! Thanks @hopeful33250 Will Do!! @kdo0827 I'm with ya! Keeping it to yourself "seems" easier! I'm glad you found this place, too! Feel free to pm me! Thanks for all the support, will be coming back for more to get and give!!!! 😀
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Yes, as @JustinMcClanahan said, at Connect you will find Members who do not "zone-out." So keep posting and keep venting.