@jodeej I have no idea about my donor, the family or how she/he died. I hoped that I didn't upset anyone with my letter (if they even read it) but I kept it focused more on the donor than myself. I also didn't ramble about my own journey to the transplant but what I had to look forward to with the giift of life.
We asked the surgeon and that was all they could tell us, for obvious reasons. I kept our letter very general, too. We expressed sympathy and gratitude and told them a little about our life since.