That would not be a bad idea. I think a lot of my problems go back to feeling such tremendous guilt and shame over what happened to my daughter and what he put me through as well. I had three bad relationships in a row over 25 years and my kids got caught in the middle of them. But, the horrible pervert was the worst, and he had me trapped. I couldn't find a decent place to live so it was real hard to get out, even when living with him became unbearable. He was really messed up. A Vietnam vet and a psychopath--on mission to destroy us. I should have recognized he was messed up at the beginning and tried harder to stay away from him. But, I didn't. It's been along process of rebuilding our lives--13 years now. But, we are moving forward. My daughter doesn't blame me per se. She's resentful and doesn't trust me because I threw her under the bus. I did. There's no getting around it. But I drank to escape. Not much, just a glass or two of wine after work. I thought it helped me cope. So many years later I wind up with afib and some kind of lung issue. It's all related. One thing led to another. But, I'm dealing with that too. I have a busy week planned.
I hope you have a good week. Thanks for all your advice and being a listening ear.