Cognac, can you tie anything to this time of day that might cause your depression? How long does this last?

I am 68,years old female and feel depression after 8:38am when alone in house. I fix My husband breakfast and lunch for work, he leaves and I go to bed for the day. I have no visiters , rarely get calls and because of recovering from Total knee replacement. I stay in the house because of being self-conscience from the loss of my hair. I am so lonely sometimes I cry for no reason. no money, no close friends, I want to give up but I don't so far.

I have a suggestion and do not mean it sarcastically but have you thought of getting a wig? They are so real looking now and I know I would do that if I lost my hair. Maybe you could save up for one. Also you may be able to research it on line. Just an idea but if you could do it , it might make you feel a bit better about yourself. A starting point!
With best wishes
Ainsleigh

@birdwbknwing I am sorry you feel so all alone. Many of us here do. Have you thought about trying something new such as a hobby? Time alone can be hard and hurtful. @ainsleigh made the suggestion of a wig. I know many who wear wigs and it made a difference for them. Our appearance means a lot. Did you get help for recovering from your knee replacement? You sound so discouraged. Depression is hard to live with and can also be difficult for others in our life. You have the internet to check into things to help. Many here understand. Surely you have medicare. Talk to your doctor about the depression. There are times we need to try and be proactive. The 1st step can be the hardest. If you cannot take the 1st step maybe you can try telling your doctor. Wishing you some hope and help.

@birdwbknwing

I'm so glad you have found Mayo Connect, welcome to the community. I am a Volunteer Mentor and not a medical professional. I can't offer medical diagnosis or medical solutions, but I do offer my experience and support. All on this thread and in this community offer you their support, encouragement, and experience.

You sound very discouraged at this time. I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time in your life. I remember feeling so tired at one point in my life that I wanted to just go to sleep and never awaken. I didn't realize at the time that this was a sign of depression. Reaching out to connect with others here is a positive sign that you want to find ways to feel better. Fortunately, I too reached out and called my local mental health organization to ask about counseling. I didn't have money to pay for the counseling, so they put me on a sliding scale and I only paid $5 a session. This saved my life!

I recommend that you contact a mental health center, or a hospital in your area and ask about counseling. If you are like me, this was extremely hard to do--asking for help meant I couldn't solve the problem myself and I was therefore weak. In fact, doing so is a sign of strength. If you don't have transportation, please call an Uber, Lyft, or other transportation. The first 2 take credit cards to pay for the trip. Ask for an estimate of how much it will cost to take you for your appointment.

Please let us know how you're doing. Many of us are struggling with issues similar to yours. I'm concerned and here for you.

Gail
Volunteer Mentor

Hello @birdwbknwing

I see that this is your second post on Connect - I hope you are finding encouragement and support. I encourage you to read the post from @parus above. She makes some good suggestions including: taking up a new hobby and seeking ways of not spending a lot of time alone.

I hope you will try some of the suggestions offered by other Members. There is no magic-wand to make the symptoms of depression go away, but we all need to develop a group of tools that will help us deal with depression. As you read the posts from other members I hope that you will find some of those tools and start using them yourself.

As @parus said, the first step is the hardest, but is is worth it!

I look forward to hearing from you again.

Teresa