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Dearest@gingerw, yes, I do use cool compresses on my eyes, as well as my head. At its worst, I sheepishly wore a frozen bag of green beans to cool off the fires of shingles! It worked!
Rain again today. So much for planting May flowers. At least the flower beds will be ready for planting tomorrow, if time permits. Still working on Marie Kondo style uncluttering.. More reading and studying to do.
Still trying to wrap my head around the whole subject of addiction and recovery in the context of family dynamics. The book I am reading is helpful. I still don't know how to relate to someone who is in denial even when the facts are right there.
On a less serious note, watching Star Trek - the Next Generation is a wonderful way to avoid reality . If only for a little while. Hubster is a science fiction buff.
Good night, sleep tight. Tomorrow is a better day!
Mamacita
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Hang in there, @mamacita. Shingles are no picnic - I may have mentioned that I had them personally, maybe 4 years ago. The doctor actually discovered mine when looking at a cyst on my back. So, I got to experience some of the ugliness of the shingles, but probably tempered due to being treated on the early side. I am empathizing with your discomfort and the fires of shingles.
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@mamacita First we take care of ourselves, like when an oxygen mask drops from the overhead in an airplane. Then we reach out to the next person, be they family member or not. My ex was in denial, his career on the line, our marriage on the skids. But unless there is willingness from the addict to help themselves, it doesn't work. We have to learn to "let go with love", which is never easy, but the thing that keeps us from going down also.
Ah, flower beds ready for your ministrations with fresh plants, seeds, and digging in the dirt. A better salve for the soul can rarely be found!
Easy on yourself. We care, and as you say, together we are mighty!
Ginger