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Caregivers | Last Active: May 3, 2018 | Replies (8)
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@sallysue

I’m not doing so well with my sister in “moderate stage dementia. She had a hip replacement 1/08/18 and it was the wrong thing to do. She can’t remember that she is not supposed to bend over (or draw her knee up), twist her foot inward nor let that leg pass the midline. It is impossible and the fact that she has not yet dislocated it is an act of God and has nothing to do with my caregiving. I turn my back and she is bending over! She is doing so well medically. She walks without even a cane and without a limp. She has had no pain since the end of the second post op week. But I live in terror that she will pop it out of place because she sits wrong, bends wrong and sleeps wrong according to the doctor’s orders. What can I say. I can’t stay up next to her all day and all night. My husband is super supportive and takes me on dates frequently. I do all that I can and trust God to look after that hip. Thanks for being back with us, Scott. Hope you can regain more of that right side. Keep up those exercises.

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Scott, Volunteer Mentor | @IndianaScott | Apr 26, 2018

I am sorry to hear you are going through a tough spell with your sister, @sallysue Caregiving is never easy nor smooth, but when you add something like a major medical procedure to it, I can hardly imagine the burden! I am glad you husband is there to offer support and time with you! It is also great that your sister is making such great progress! I do recall from my mother-in-law's years with dementia that times of medical intervention were always extra challenging.

I don't know what the doctor prescribed for your sister as far as her movement while sleeping, etc., but with my wife, when she had some difficulties with her legs her doctor suggested two of those long body-length pillows. We then tucked them in next to her at bedtime. These kept her from rolling over and in a more stable position at night. But that was my wife and we all know each patient is unique.

Thanks, too for the support! My physical abilities are coming along as well as hoped. The biggest challenge is having lost my sight and hearing on my right (dominant side), but I am doing all I can to compensate for that loss, but it is a bit of a tough slog there right now for me.

I wish you all the best to you, your sister, and your husband!
Continued strength, courage, and peace!

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