@eastmas1- if you were advised against surgery, be grateful. This surgeon was being honest and not wanting to cause more harm. Most surgeons are not honest in that way.
I would move forward for ways to cope. Often times it’s not so much that the condition is actually getting worse, but it is what we, become sensitized for and tell ourselves, that make it feel worse.
I recommend somatic-therapy to help with changing the way you feel the sensations and how you think about them.
Focus on things you can be grateful for and small other changes that can improve pain tolerance.
Where the mind goes the energy flows.
Look at it as a blessing that you were recommended against a surgical procedure.