Hello @onlychild Nice to e-meet you here! I am Scott and while I did not have two patients, I was the primary caregiver for my wife during her 14+ year war with brain cancer. I know whereof you speak! The demands and the pressures of caregiving are second to none!

It is good to hear you still have your job! I was fired from mine by a new boss who didn't want a staff member 'who wasn't 100% focused on the job all the time'. Like anyone is! 🙂

I also worked for the Alzheimer's Association for some years for their research work and can say that actually, as far as the medical professionals and researchers know, very few types of dementia are genetically passed on, so I wouldn't waste any precious energy worrying about something this is unlikely as well as beyond anyone's control. Easy to say, but hard to do, I know!

Chronic disease and the resultant caregiving takes a toll on every family. I lost years of earnings opportunities and now find employers balking at my 'employment gap'. Plus it takes its toll on other family members too. Such is the nature of the often overwhelming demands of caregiving.

You are to be applauded for your hard work and commitment to your parents!

I send you strength, courage, and peace!