I have a son who was badly injured at age 11 in an auto-bike accident. He is hemiplegic (like a stroke victim). While he was in the hospital I was called into a staff-v-family meeting and asked what I expected from his rehab. When I told them I expected them to help him get stronger and to be able to walk a bit using a leg brace and a forearm crutch. The rehab team leader, an idiot doctor, looked directly at me and asked me in reply "Are you prepared for failure?" My reply to him was "Are YOU prepared for success?" This caught all at the table by surprise and as they were looking for the signal from each other to debate me, the same idiot doctor then agreed they would help him regain as much mobility as possible keeping in mind that it would be a long haul and he would never be exactly the same.

He learned to drive at age 26,(could not figure out how he was going to shift gears in my car and I told him he'd have to drive an automatic as you only change gears while stopped) has been extremely mobile ever since. Now drives (with the assist of a left foot gas pedal) for a ride share service, tutors, holds a credential in Special Education and in History, has his own life though still living with me. His only real complaint, and I agree with him it is unfair, he can't get a girlfriend. He's smart, a great person and is solvent.