Have you talked to your Doctor about the dark times? You do have someone to help. Talk to God!

Lean on the Mayo Clinic Connect group. 🙂

Hi @parus, I am alone. I have no one. When I feel pain or depression I pray it will pass. If I need to take an extra pill to help w/the pain I do. I have started cymbalta and hoping that will kick in soon but it is a challenge and I wonder how long I will be able to live independently. I am 60.

You are so young doxylune. I am going to be 76 in April. I ask God for anotther 10 to 15 years please.. I want to see my grandkids grow up. I understand that our life is not the most pleasant with pain. Pray and ask God for help to get through it all.

Hi @oregongirl - thank you. I do pray = but I have had this mystery like condition for 20 years - was just told I have fibromyalgia but the rhemu dr. did not want to see me after the diagnosis. Good luck was about it? This was at Stony Brook University Hospital which has a decent reputation.

You need to look for a new Rheumatologist then ,why did she do that to you?I'm sorry ,don't understand that

I have been let down by almost every single doctor. I have been to over 100 doctors in the 20 years this has been going on. I think here in NY there aren't enough doctors and if they can't cure you they don't want to "treat" you. I am on medicaid so they really don't care about you. You are right though, I will look for another rheumy not with that group. Thank you for that suggestion. I don't think straight after so long - you tend to give up. So thank you for your input.

Your welcome yes go to a diff.group ,talk to your friends and see if there,s any suggestions there? Good luck

@doxyjune I do hope the Cymbalta will help some. I live surrounded by others. Learned the hard way that staying to myself is the safest. There, at times, are things worse than being alone. Taking an extra pill to help with the pain is not weakness. At times prayer is the only thing. You have access to a computer and this can be helpful. I am 66 and have many things I would still like to be doing. The thought of having to give up our independence is daunting. Your username is familiar as are some others. I read the sadness in your words. I have some days that are better than others. I do "my" best and no longer what others see as "my" best. Some may see this as selfish...Take care. I know others in their 90's and wonder how they can do what they do being in so much pain. I started to realize because I have constant pain everyone else does not. We cannot compare ourselves to the accomplishments of others. The brain may want to do something that the body cannot-no matter how hard we push ourselves. It can be rather like a paralyzed person being able to do all they would like to do...We are not all the same.

Foxyjune wow, a Dr turn you away? How very sad. What are you going to do. I lived many years living with what I thought was fibro. Then the diagnosis of RA came to the surface. We are not as far advanced in medical science ad we thought. Blessings and hang in there.