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Loss and Grief: How are you doing?
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Apr 7 12:18pm | Replies (932)Comment receiving replies
I'm finding it difficult now since I can't be out and about top help fill the time that I spent at the care center with my husband, Casey. His 90th birthday would have been yesterday and that was difficult also.. We always celebrated with a cake and when we were younger we went to a dance. One of the few that we cool attend as we had 5 small children and were farming so dancing was not a common activity for us. I just took part in a Zoom presentation (online video communication) with the study group at church. We were studying The Walk by Adam Hamiton for our Lenten study, and since everything is shut down our pastor arranged for us to get together via Zoom. Work well and we had a new experience. My laryngitis didn't help as I couldn't contribute much, but is is getting better day by day so maybe next week.
Everyone take care of yourself, and we will get through this with God's help.
Ruth
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How right you are. Connect is a healthy and supportive place to spend some time each day. @rmftucker Our church is a member of a really good online resource called Right Now Media. It can be another tool to use on these long days of isolation.
Maggie, I can't imagine the trauma of watching the lights turn off in your husband's eyes. I'm so sorry you had that experience. Allowing him to die in peace without the drama you could have presented was perhaps the right thing for you to do. You'll likely have some internal drama going on as you grieve your loss, and that's ok. You don't have to feel any guilt for the way his final moments played out. It sounds like there was nothing you could do to delay his passing, or have any effect on him at that point. Now you can give yourself some time to let your grieving process begin. I hope you can overcome the feeling of shame. Instead you could replace it with a different feeling. What are you feeling right now? Is there a grief counselor available to you? They can be very helpful. Keep in touch here.
Jim