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Potential pregnancy?

Posted by anonymousbeaver @pepper2001, Jan 10, 2018

Hello, I’m a 16 year old boy and two days ago my girlfriend, also 16, and I did some mutual masturbation, and I’m quite sure that some pre-cum entered her vaginal area because she might have had some on her fingers. I did not ejaculate, and she is on birth control. Two days after this, or today, she is experiencing cramps, but her period is supposed to be around the middle of the month (and it’s only the tenth of the month). Is it likely that she is pregnant?

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Dec 6, 2019
In reply to @miranda0213 "thank you so much for your reply, i really appreciate it. i think what would help..." + (show)
@miranda0213

thank you so much for your reply, i really appreciate it. i think what would help me is someone knocking sense into me with scientific facts as to why it's not possible. could you tell me what you exactly think about my situation and it's possibilities? i'm very scared. i cried just now thinking about it, this has been going on for days and i'm afraid it will affect my next period and make me even more worried. i want to get a pregnancy test, but idk if t might be too soon. my mental state has been chaos. i have posted on other online forums and they just tell me it's not possible, without explaining why, or they say i'm lifeless and want attention or am trolling online. i really am not, i am so so scared. thank you so much for reading everything i post, i know it's long, but i really appreciate your replies.

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@miranda0213 Sit quietly in a chair. Close your eyes and quiet your mind. Now feel all of us surrounding you and giving you a big close hug. We all here care about you and we all understand how stressful situations can affect us. Believe it or not, we've all been through them before, ourselves! As you read all of the posts you will see that the viability of sperm is not very long in an open environment like a toilet seat. You will also find that information online, and it will reinforce what you read here. Please remember that as a young person there are so many things that can affect your system. The amount of sleep you get, the types of food you eat, the amount of fluids you drink, the different types of activities you do. Anything and everything can affect you, and this stress that you are putting on yourself will have the most immediate effect. If you feel better, get a pregnancy test and take it. If you need a face-to-face conversation, and you do not feel that your mother is the best person to turn to, turn to a friend of your mother who won't relate anything back to her. That's what I did when I was your age and it was my saving grace! Mrs. Y treated me with such respect and care when I was going through a very anxious time. Now I suggest you do an activity that helps you relax. Take a walk if the weather is nice. Play some nice music that you like. Do something creative like drawing or painting or textile work. Lose yourself in that activity for a while. Write your feelings out if that helps if you like to write. That will help get it out of your mind, honestly it will.
Ginger

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Dec 6, 2019
In reply to @miranda0213 "Hello! I am not doing any better. my period started december first, its is currently december..." + (show)
@miranda0213

Hello! I am not doing any better. my period started december first, its is currently december 6 and it is very strange. I bleed very occasionally. usually when i wake up during normal periods i bleed a lot because of overnight blood, but this time i usually don't bleed at all in the morning, only when i'm at school i bleed, not nearly as much as usual though. maybe i bleed around three times, in one whole school day, but very little. when i get home the bleeding usually stops as well. it seems to be heaviest at school (which is still not heavy at all). i cant stop worrying about a possible pregnancy, i know it's dumb, because what are the odds that there was sperm on the toilet that i didn't see, or sperm on the pee that i wiped, but google doesn't help. i keep searching things and it tells me that sperm can be found it pee. it also tells me that sleek survives in warm moist areas. i'm afraid some sperm cells stayed alive under my fingernails or in my finger skin creased when i washed them with soap and warm water. i know the odds are low, but i did touch the wet paper towels with my fingers. it was about thirty minutes after cleaning the toilets that i got home and touched my vagina, though i washed my hands again before doing so. i've been very gassy and burping, and i google says all these are signs of implantation bleeding. i know it's crazy and what are the odds, it's probably not even possible. i didn't even directly insert fingers into my vagina, just the outside. i've been feeling so much anxiety and have had panic attacks thinking about this. i told my mom this, minus the masturbation part, only expressed worry that i cleaned the toilets without gloves then used the restroom and maybe accidentally touched myself. she told me it was impossible and has been trying to get me not to worry. i went to the doctor yesterday because the anxiety has been eating me up, i can't eat. i get anxiety and it doesn't allow me to pass food down my throat because it's constructed and my heart beats fast. i think i'm going insane. i cried to my mom yesterday. she took me to the doctor, i don't like him much. we only told him about my irregular periods, and i mentioned that i was a senior in high school and got a job this month. i am 5'4 and weigh 101 pounds. he said i was probably stressed and had anxiety and that changed my period. i did not tell him about the bathroom situation and my worries of possibly being pregnant because of it, so he just assumed i was stressed and had anxiety and referred me to a psychologist. i am going crazy. my mom tries to reassure me saying it's impossible, but i can't help but worry more and more the more i google symptoms etc. please help, i don't know what to do.

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Hello @miranda0213

I can certainly understand your concerns. Unfortunately, worry can cause a lot of physical problems. It does sound like you need to see a medical doctor in order to find a reason for your symptoms.

Is there any medical professional you would feel comfortable talking with?

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Gail, Alumni Mentor | @baxtersmom | Dec 6, 2019

@miranda0213
I know this is making you worry and fret like crazy but truly you cannot possibly get pregnant in the way you describe. The chance that there was sperm on the toilet seat is very low. The chance that it could survive in that environment for any length of time at all is virtually 0. And beyond that, you washed your hands a bunch of times and then went out into the elements before arriving at home (again another environment that sperm would not survive).

I am glad you let us know a bit more about talking with your mother, doctor, etc. If you do not like this doctor then at some point you should find one you do like. If I have a choice I always choose women doctors. They are just better at explaining things and at communication in general in my experience. Of course there are exceptions but maybe you would feel more comfortable with a woman? You don't need to do that right now but everyone should have a doctor that they like and are comfortable with. Sounds like you don't feel that way about the one you went to although it does seem like what he told you is very good advice. Of course he had no reason to give you a pregnancy test and I don't think you need one but if you feel better getting one, then I would find a free clinic, planned parenthood or someplace where you can get one just to fully put your mind at ease. I think you know deep down that you cannot get pregnant the way you describe because you know that science tells you it isn't possible.

If you think talking to the psychologist that the doctor referred you to would help, then maybe you should make an appointment and go see them. I don't know anyone who hasn't needed that kind of advice at some point in their life so there is certainly no reason not to go and talk with a psychologist at least a couple of times. It sounds like your anxiety is getting the best of you. You said you are a senior in high school and being near the end of high school can be an awfully stressful time because a lot of changes are taking place--both in your body and in your life. So don't be so hard on yourself.

Have you ever done yoga or any type of meditation? I think some of the other mentors suggested doing some exercise or relaxation techniques or just maybe getting lost in an activity you enjoy. But the one thing I would not be worried about given what you have described is being pregnant. It just does not happen that way and there will be a point when you are more relaxed when you will look back at how you are feeling now and realize how stress and anxiety can play tricks on your mind and make you think illogically. We have all had it happen to us which is why I know this is true.

Are you looking forward to graduation? What are your plan? I am much much older than you but I am really envious as that is such a wonderful time in one's life. I know it may not seem like it because it is also a bit of an uncertain time, but you have so much to look forward to. Keep letting us know how you are doing but take some time this weekend to try to let go of some of your stress. Hopefully you will stay in touch with us.

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JK | @contentandwell | Dec 6, 2019
In reply to @miranda0213 "Hello! I am not doing any better. my period started december first, its is currently december..." + (show)
@miranda0213

Hello! I am not doing any better. my period started december first, its is currently december 6 and it is very strange. I bleed very occasionally. usually when i wake up during normal periods i bleed a lot because of overnight blood, but this time i usually don't bleed at all in the morning, only when i'm at school i bleed, not nearly as much as usual though. maybe i bleed around three times, in one whole school day, but very little. when i get home the bleeding usually stops as well. it seems to be heaviest at school (which is still not heavy at all). i cant stop worrying about a possible pregnancy, i know it's dumb, because what are the odds that there was sperm on the toilet that i didn't see, or sperm on the pee that i wiped, but google doesn't help. i keep searching things and it tells me that sperm can be found it pee. it also tells me that sleek survives in warm moist areas. i'm afraid some sperm cells stayed alive under my fingernails or in my finger skin creased when i washed them with soap and warm water. i know the odds are low, but i did touch the wet paper towels with my fingers. it was about thirty minutes after cleaning the toilets that i got home and touched my vagina, though i washed my hands again before doing so. i've been very gassy and burping, and i google says all these are signs of implantation bleeding. i know it's crazy and what are the odds, it's probably not even possible. i didn't even directly insert fingers into my vagina, just the outside. i've been feeling so much anxiety and have had panic attacks thinking about this. i told my mom this, minus the masturbation part, only expressed worry that i cleaned the toilets without gloves then used the restroom and maybe accidentally touched myself. she told me it was impossible and has been trying to get me not to worry. i went to the doctor yesterday because the anxiety has been eating me up, i can't eat. i get anxiety and it doesn't allow me to pass food down my throat because it's constructed and my heart beats fast. i think i'm going insane. i cried to my mom yesterday. she took me to the doctor, i don't like him much. we only told him about my irregular periods, and i mentioned that i was a senior in high school and got a job this month. i am 5'4 and weigh 101 pounds. he said i was probably stressed and had anxiety and that changed my period. i did not tell him about the bathroom situation and my worries of possibly being pregnant because of it, so he just assumed i was stressed and had anxiety and referred me to a psychologist. i am going crazy. my mom tries to reassure me saying it's impossible, but i can't help but worry more and more the more i google symptoms etc. please help, i don't know what to do.

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@miranda0213 as the others have told you it would be impossible to get pregnant in the way you describe. As I read some of your symptoms though it rung a bell in my head back to when I was much younger. Have you recently by any chance starting taking birth control pills? When I did I had some of the same of the period symptoms and was very nervous because I was not ready to have a child.
JK

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lioness | @lioness | Dec 6, 2019

@miranda0213 Miranda there is a lot of good information. I can only add that you should see a gynecologist one that is not where you Mother goes take a trusted friend with you there must be a women,s clinic around you that you can go to . I think you need to have her check you out . If you,ve never gone before this might be a good time to see someone that you can talk to frankly . Stress is a killer it can do so much to the body You are so young to be worried about this so please make an appt with a gynecologist and talk with her

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