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Acceptance: Anyone have difficulty accepting new limitations daily?

Posted by keeptrying @keeptrying, Dec 24, 2017

Does anyone have difficulty accepting new limitations daily? Is it helpful or a bit of denial to keep photos out of yourself riding, dancing, all of which are just fantasies at this point? Thank you.

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John, Volunteer Mentor | @johnbishop | Dec 28, 2017

They get a bad rap indeed.
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Parus | @parus | Dec 28, 2017

I am allergic to their dander and never have liked the thought of cleaning a litter box. I will stick with my paint brushes and pencils. I know others who have cats and adore them. Mayhap a tiger would work for this member.

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Parus | @parus | Dec 28, 2017

Would that not fall into the category of being dishonest? Said playfully and not being critical. My maladies do not define the person who I am.

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John, Volunteer Mentor | @johnbishop | Dec 28, 2017
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@parus

I am allergic to their dander and never have liked the thought of cleaning a litter box. I will stick with my paint brushes and pencils. I know others who have cats and adore them. Mayhap a tiger would work for this member.

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P.S. — I don’t like cleaning the litter box either 🙂

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Gary, Alumni Mentor | @gman007 | Dec 28, 2017
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At times I go to the grocery store to have a connection with others. Thankful for the employees that tolerate the rudeness of customers. I say to the employees the attitudes of others are not an indication of the person "you" are. It says the type of person they are...

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Excellent point! Most of those that disrespect employees, servers, vendors, go through life thinking it is all about them and only when one realizes that is almost all about everyone else can you really enjoy any relationship for what it was meant to be. I try to regularly remind myself of this fact.

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Parus | @parus | Dec 29, 2017
In reply to @clydecaldwell "Thats good! I go to lowes and have gotten to know about 10 of the clerks...." + (show)
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Thats good! I go to lowes and have gotten to know about 10 of the clerks. They are happy to see me and I am careful to always compliment them in a professional manner and a short visit. Many share the latest edition events such as new grand babies, someone sick, I am always willing to listen
It gives me a chance to walk, look at special sale items and get out of the house.

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Same here. Always brief. I do care about them as real people. I need a boost for my duldrums I go to one of the local stores with a smile and it helps. Need to do so now as the gloom is trying to nestle in. NO! NO! NO!

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Parus | @parus | Dec 29, 2017

@harriethodgson1 I totally get it. As long as I can I will do my own grocery shopping!!!

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Harriet Hodgson | @harriethodgson1 | Dec 29, 2017
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People keep offering to go to the grocery store for me. I don't want them to do my grocery shopping. This simple task gets me out of the house and I often meet friends at the store. Besides, I love to cook, wrote a cookbook, and prefer to grocery shop on my own.

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Thanks for the like Parus, Jim and John.

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keeptrying | @keeptrying | Dec 31, 2017
In reply to @carnes "Hello, I’m Sharon and I have limitations I never had before and never thought of them..." + (show)
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Hello, I’m Sharon and I have limitations I never had before and never thought of them was I was younger and healthy. Such as, AFibrillation, COPD, stage 3 kidney disease, diabetes, traumatic brain injury, on and on etc. I certainly don’t believe it Denial to look back at what you use to do as longer as there is no morbid dread or fear about today. It is better to live in the moment. I find every morning when I make a grateful list say 4 things I’m grateful for. This starts my day off on a good happy note. Such as I’m grateful for another day of life. Being able to appreciate a beautiful sunset. A roof over my head. Or I could feel isolated and depressed. I also find when I take myself out of the equation and think of how I could call and help someone else, that helps me too. Most people are suffering with addictions or health problems, mental or physical, how sad. You could help with a kind word. It helps, it works.

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I keep a "kindness jar" (now two) beside my bed. It may sound silly but since being diagnosed every little kind word or glance has become like sunlight into my soul. I find myself wanting to hug strangers! Your post I find inspirational. Thank you.

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Harriet Hodgson | @harriethodgson1 | Dec 31, 2017
In reply to @carnes "Hello, I’m Sharon and I have limitations I never had before and never thought of them..." + (show)
@carnes

Hello, I’m Sharon and I have limitations I never had before and never thought of them was I was younger and healthy. Such as, AFibrillation, COPD, stage 3 kidney disease, diabetes, traumatic brain injury, on and on etc. I certainly don’t believe it Denial to look back at what you use to do as longer as there is no morbid dread or fear about today. It is better to live in the moment. I find every morning when I make a grateful list say 4 things I’m grateful for. This starts my day off on a good happy note. Such as I’m grateful for another day of life. Being able to appreciate a beautiful sunset. A roof over my head. Or I could feel isolated and depressed. I also find when I take myself out of the equation and think of how I could call and help someone else, that helps me too. Most people are suffering with addictions or health problems, mental or physical, how sad. You could help with a kind word. It helps, it works.

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For a year I kept a caregiving happiness jar. Months later, when I read the notes, I realized they were a chronology of my disabled husband's progress. He started out with two paralyzed legs. Then the feeling came back in his right leg, and some feeling in his left. Thanks to Mayo rehab specialists, he learned how to stand, stand and pivot, take a few steps, and now walks the width of our townhome with a walker, a true miracle for someone with spinal cord injury. My husband, a retired Mayo Clinic physician, is a Mayo miracle. Keeping the caregiving happiness jar made that miracle clear to me. I encourage you to keep a similar jar in 2018. A happy and blessed New Year to all caregivers!

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