there are studies that show verbal abuse can have much greater impact than physical abuse...the ideas implanted in our self image, often for the rest of our lives, from cruel twisted pronouncements made to us as children are much worse than blows of belt or fist.

dear pendragonart: i agree with you but: when your father breaks dinner dishes over your head where is the comparison? sorry, do not wish to argue. still healing. still hurts. perhaps i am looking for compassion! ps, no money for food but could afford to buy other dishes.

@peach414144 Looking for compassion isn't bad. As humans, we have need to be accepted and understood.
Seriously, that is terrible, breaking dishes over child"s head. I'm sorry you had to go through such abuse. It's good you can talk about it and let it out.
To your last sentence, yes, I know what you mean. My parents never had enough money, only for my father's booze.

@theotherone thank you for understanding. yes, no money for food but somehow there were always more dishes. we both know that these incidents of yours and mine are only the surface of how much more was done to us; and to the many others. there is still such a great need for mental health issues of all kinds. it seems to be at the bottom of the list. actually it should be at the top as we all know. these issues affect us in many ways. all of us.

should be the top of the list as it is the cause of most of the chronic diseases that are becoming more and more common. maybe that is too simplistic to say, but there are proven links between such diseases and childhood trauma. even if the powers that be only look at monetary costs burdening society, childhood trauma is at the root of crime of all kinds as well as illnesses.

yes, pendragonart again you are correct. to me it appears as though mental abuse along with the physical abuse can cause all sorts of illnesses. both mental and physical. sharing with others does help all of us. thank you.

I do understand the physical pain. my father enjoyed my suffering, wanted to see me in physical pain. he was a scientific researcher, experimented on people and a MD. he wanted me to have endless operations and painful procedures.

yes @pendragonart.i agree. when the constant trauma of physical and mental abuse is generated for years it could very well cause the body to change into a protective mode; and change the bodies protective devices causing long term illnesses. it confuses the body oh well i am just a layman but i could see this to be so.

my goodness, my goodness @pendragonart. when i needed to take my son for his many operations to correct his cleft lip, palate, nose and etc. it pained me so deeply i still cringe at the mental and physical pain my son went through. i had to be strong and hold on to be with him. we both suffered so much. i hope my son does not feel the same way about me because of the treatments and operations he went through. (he is doing well now). i am so sorry for you. i do feel your pain. now is the time to enjoy. careingly, peach

Sounds a bit like munchkins by proxy.
abby