I was told I could file against the company where I got hurt today. No matter how long it had been. I'm in VA, he said because of the coal mine industry that is here or used to be here it happens a lot.
@liz1945, I am in the process of helping search for you. I know we have had members discuss the Mayo pain program in the past, it is just taking me some time to find that discussion. I will post here as soon as I find it!
Jim, I'm wondering if you applied for SS disability within 2 years of your last job lasting 5 years or more? That what SSD told me I should have done if I wanted to be approved. They say I can't get it now because I stupidly tried 4 more times to go back to work. My last job was within their 2year deadline, but because I was in so much pain I didn't last 5 years. It seems so crazy that you want to work, your keep trying to work, you get hired but fail so you are punished. I wondered if an attorney would help at all. Thanks, Jennifer
Jim, I'm wondering if you applied for SS disability within 2 years of your last job lasting 5 years or more? That what SSD told me I should have done if I wanted to be approved. They say I can't get it now because I stupidly tried 4 more times to go back to work. My last job was within their 2year deadline, but because I was in so much pain I didn't last 5 years. It seems so crazy that you want to work, your keep trying to work, you get hired but fail so you are punished. I wondered if an attorney would help at all. Thanks, Jennifer
Hey, Anthony @carsalespapa . I've been thinking about you, sorry you're hurting so much. Have you made any progress in finding help?
How are your wife and daughters doing? It must be hard for them to see you in pain. I know that it concerns my son and daughter when I have health problems. We feel like we should be strong to protect and provide for our family, and I know how it made me feel when I wasn't up to the job. It can be hard on the self-esteem. But we're blessed to be loved by our kids and wives, even when we feel we don't deserve it.
Hey, Anthony @carsalespapa . I've been thinking about you, sorry you're hurting so much. Have you made any progress in finding help?
How are your wife and daughters doing? It must be hard for them to see you in pain. I know that it concerns my son and daughter when I have health problems. We feel like we should be strong to protect and provide for our family, and I know how it made me feel when I wasn't up to the job. It can be hard on the self-esteem. But we're blessed to be loved by our kids and wives, even when we feel we don't deserve it.
Hello Jim, thanks for your thoughts and prayers. The pain is still here, some days are better than others. I do have a neurosurgeon appointment on the 3rd of October.
My employer, well former employer... decided that during this ordeal with my spine, even though I made it clear I was not resigning my car sales position, he resigned me lol. On the bright side I've not had to be on my feet on pavement 10+ hours a day. It's let me re-evaluate my career choices, do a lot of praying and a lot of seeking God's guidance.
I may go back to my roots in graphic design, web design and internet marketing.
My wife and girls are doing well, my girls seem to enjoy seeing me more since I normally worked 60-70 + hour weeks. It's all in God's hands, I may not understand it all now but He has never let me down. The male/provider instinct is a little tough for me to deal with because I feel guilty of not being Super Man.
I really do appreciate you reaching out and sending me a note. It means more to me than you know and it came at just the right time.
Hey, Anthony @carsalespapa . I've been thinking about you, sorry you're hurting so much. Have you made any progress in finding help?
How are your wife and daughters doing? It must be hard for them to see you in pain. I know that it concerns my son and daughter when I have health problems. We feel like we should be strong to protect and provide for our family, and I know how it made me feel when I wasn't up to the job. It can be hard on the self-esteem. But we're blessed to be loved by our kids and wives, even when we feel we don't deserve it.
God is full of surprises, isn't He. Your attitude is a blessing to me, and I'm pretty sure it's teaching your daughters some great lessons about what a Godly man looks like under pressure. Hold fast to that faith.
I had my weekly session with the therapist today. I told him how tired I am of being depressed. We talked about the 2 basic levels of long term depression, dysthymia and major depressive disorder. Dysthymia is a feeling of sadness and hopelessness and so on, that comes and goes. Major depressive disorder is constant, and is a deeper level of sadness, hopelessness, worthlessness, etc., that doesn't let up, and lasts longer than Dysthymia generally. One common component of Major depressive disorder is suicidal ideation, but it isn't part of a diagnosis of Dysthymia. I've been walking, sometimes crawling, through Major Depressive Disorder since 2004, and I was gradually walking into it unknowingly for a few years before that. But it really tanked in the fall of 2005, when, at the same time, I was trying to overdose on pain meds. By October of '06, I had resigned as a pastor and retired at the insistence of my doctors. I wasn't able to function at that point.
We had bought a house on ten acres, 175 miles north of where we were living, two years earlier. We moved over the next 3 months, making 31 round-trips, mostly with our 97 F250 turbo diesel 7.3L pickup and two-horse trailer. We did two trips with the biggest U-haul truck. Fortunately, that was before fuel shot up. But at $75/trip, on my Social Security Disability check, it was plenty expensive.
I think that because of my mental state at the time, the thought of being on disability didn't concern me. But my feeling about it is that I invested in it against the day when I might need it, and I've never begrudged anyone receiving assistance when there was legitimate need. We have to look for help wherever it's available, from food assistance to energy assistance. I guess I'm learning to be less prideful, which is a good thing.
I've rambled until my eyes are getting blurry. I'm glad for your good report. I will pray for you as you talk with your neurosurgeon, and as you look at the options ahead of you.
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I was told I could file against the company where I got hurt today. No matter how long it had been. I'm in VA, he said because of the coal mine industry that is here or used to be here it happens a lot.
@liz1945, I am in the process of helping search for you. I know we have had members discuss the Mayo pain program in the past, it is just taking me some time to find that discussion. I will post here as soon as I find it!
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Hey, Anthony. That's great news. I hope you have some proof of what happened. I'm sure sorry you're having so much pain. I'll be praying for you.
Jim
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I don't remember the name of the agency. If I can find it, I'll let you know.
Jim
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Jennifer,
I found online the name that was recommended to me: Allsup. I've heard that they have a high first time application record.
I think one or more of my siblings used their services.
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1 Reaction@liz1945, I found a discussion that has members talking the pain rehab clinic and program: Pain rehabilitation, https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/pain-rehabilitation-21da8b/. I think this discussion will have some information and discussion points that you are looking for.
Thank you Justin for finding that for me. Liz
Hey, Anthony @carsalespapa . I've been thinking about you, sorry you're hurting so much. Have you made any progress in finding help?
How are your wife and daughters doing? It must be hard for them to see you in pain. I know that it concerns my son and daughter when I have health problems. We feel like we should be strong to protect and provide for our family, and I know how it made me feel when I wasn't up to the job. It can be hard on the self-esteem. But we're blessed to be loved by our kids and wives, even when we feel we don't deserve it.
Praying for you.
Jim
Hello Jim, thanks for your thoughts and prayers. The pain is still here, some days are better than others. I do have a neurosurgeon appointment on the 3rd of October.
My employer, well former employer... decided that during this ordeal with my spine, even though I made it clear I was not resigning my car sales position, he resigned me lol. On the bright side I've not had to be on my feet on pavement 10+ hours a day. It's let me re-evaluate my career choices, do a lot of praying and a lot of seeking God's guidance.
I may go back to my roots in graphic design, web design and internet marketing.
My wife and girls are doing well, my girls seem to enjoy seeing me more since I normally worked 60-70 + hour weeks. It's all in God's hands, I may not understand it all now but He has never let me down. The male/provider instinct is a little tough for me to deal with because I feel guilty of not being Super Man.
I really do appreciate you reaching out and sending me a note. It means more to me than you know and it came at just the right time.
How are things going with you?
Praying for you also.
Tony
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Tony,
God is full of surprises, isn't He. Your attitude is a blessing to me, and I'm pretty sure it's teaching your daughters some great lessons about what a Godly man looks like under pressure. Hold fast to that faith.
I had my weekly session with the therapist today. I told him how tired I am of being depressed. We talked about the 2 basic levels of long term depression, dysthymia and major depressive disorder. Dysthymia is a feeling of sadness and hopelessness and so on, that comes and goes. Major depressive disorder is constant, and is a deeper level of sadness, hopelessness, worthlessness, etc., that doesn't let up, and lasts longer than Dysthymia generally. One common component of Major depressive disorder is suicidal ideation, but it isn't part of a diagnosis of Dysthymia. I've been walking, sometimes crawling, through Major Depressive Disorder since 2004, and I was gradually walking into it unknowingly for a few years before that. But it really tanked in the fall of 2005, when, at the same time, I was trying to overdose on pain meds. By October of '06, I had resigned as a pastor and retired at the insistence of my doctors. I wasn't able to function at that point.
We had bought a house on ten acres, 175 miles north of where we were living, two years earlier. We moved over the next 3 months, making 31 round-trips, mostly with our 97 F250 turbo diesel 7.3L pickup and two-horse trailer. We did two trips with the biggest U-haul truck. Fortunately, that was before fuel shot up. But at $75/trip, on my Social Security Disability check, it was plenty expensive.
I think that because of my mental state at the time, the thought of being on disability didn't concern me. But my feeling about it is that I invested in it against the day when I might need it, and I've never begrudged anyone receiving assistance when there was legitimate need. We have to look for help wherever it's available, from food assistance to energy assistance. I guess I'm learning to be less prideful, which is a good thing.
I've rambled until my eyes are getting blurry. I'm glad for your good report. I will pray for you as you talk with your neurosurgeon, and as you look at the options ahead of you.
Jim
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