@jrs619
I had this same problem. 3 1/2 years after the prostatectomy my PSA started rising, so I had salvage radiation. 6 years later I started having incontinence problems. It got progressively worse over the following 6 years.

I started using a Wiesner penis clamp when I went out. That eliminated the need to wear a pad for up to two hours at a time.

I finally got tired of it and in June I had an AUS (artificial urinary sphincter) put in and I no longer have to use any pads at all. Test done. That device works.