@colleenyoung He finally is taking his Dr's advice and is taking the Immodium. As far as pain meds, his palliative Dr as prescribed oxycodone for his throat pain. He barely takes it because he is so scared of the constipation effects which induces more pain. I finally got him out of the house. We went for a long drive and I noticed his pain level dropped. I have studied pain for years due to my own health issues. I learned from a therapist that works with people who have chronic pain, that pain is generated in brain. There is a lot of information about the brain's neuroplasticity and how to break the cycle of chronic pain, in my husbands case - IBS.
Collen, every day there appears to be something new and scary. I'm trying to take things a day at a time.