I spent ~40 years of enjoying great (and sometimes not so great) sex with more lovers than I can remember. Today at 80, my priorities are great companionship and great conversation. An "unsexy" relationship sounds better than no relationship, or perhaps I should say, most relationships. Living alone and not being touched from one year to the next is dreadful. Living alone is not optimal, but it's better than living with the wrong person, as I learned through three marriages all dissolved. Live and learn!