Good morning Gratia, Cheerful is not a word I could never associate with caregiving. Being "Grateful" for being able to provide the support that you do, I believe is more appropriate. Be thankful for those good days, and know that when your mother smiles, or on occasion recognizes you, that you are doing all that you can - be grateful that you're there to help her be more comfortable and secure. Others may be able to provide more direct answers to your question concerning cheer - but for one who has been down that minefield of dementia caregiving, from beginning to end, cheer is not something I associate with it. All the best to you and your mother and always think positively, so that you can be comfortable with the hard work you do.