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Mental Health | Last Active: Oct 19, 2018 | Replies (31)Comment receiving replies
Hi Teresa ..... thank you for thinking of me. The trees are all changing rather oddly this year .... sort of patchy. I still have some hummingbirds coming to my feeder, and also some tufted titmice and chickadees are coming to my black oil feeder. Now that's really odd. Those hummers should have headed for Mexico a long time ago. I haven't written much lately because it's just the same old/same old. I'm in my new apartment ... quite large, but lots of problems .... extremely loud neighbors (I'm sure the teens above me must practice gymnastics), lots of drugs everywhere, ambulance is here at least 3x a week and fire engines about 2, there's a woman who lives below me who is paranoid schizophrenic and who won't take her meds because "she's fine." She walks her dog in summer in a long black heavy coat, head covered, and I'm told that she's a stalker and to be careful of her. There's all sorts of things to deal with .... believe me, I'm well locked in here ... door lock, padlock, and a heavy metal 3 ft. pole with rubber at both end that tucks underneath the doorknob and the metal bar presses onto the floor. I just hate to think that this is the place I will live out my last days. But, it is what it is, and by then I won't care anyhow.
abby
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It was so good to hear from you ..... thank you. I feel like such a whiner and I need to be grateful for what I have and be a blessing to those around me. The difficulty I'm having is it has been non-stop difficulties with every step I've taken since I decided to move to VA. To me, that says I never should have left MD. But, too late for that now as my condo was sold. With this experience, I would never encourage any older person to move out of their "nest" to be closer to their kids. That never happened when I was in my 20's and 30's ..... my now X and I did the running back and forth to see and take care of our parents. Now we're to go to them.
I know I'm a downer, but this is the cold, unvarnished truth .... for once in my life I'm glad for my age ..... soon it will be over.
abby
Hi there, Abby. I'm glad that I live where I can look out the window and see beauty, too. Right now, it's raining intermittently, and I have some expensive canvas drop cloths draped over my tomato plants to protect them from the frost. Oh well. They'll dry out eventually. When I went to the cellar yesterday to get them out, I found a dead mouse lying on top, and the canvas smelled pretty bad, so a little rain might help with that.
Our kids know that we are here to stay. They're the ones who will have to move if they want to be closer. The only exception might be if I die first, and our son-in-law has retired from the Coast Guard, and they have settled down somewhere. My wife would probably sell the place and move near them. Depends on where they settle. It would be really hard for me to leave my home, with 10 acres of space.
Have you unpacked more boxes? I know that I would feel better if some of my old familiar things were out where I could see them. Tell me you have started. Please?
Enjoy the Virginia autumn.
Jim
Hi Jim ..... I've probably unpacked maybe 2 more boxes ..... I just don't feel like doing it. I just want to go "home" but I know that's not possible as my condo is sold now, and rent in MD is way too high for me. Right now I live in a limited income complex ..... lots of problems here, and a lot of very angry and/or sick people. I keep my apartment door triple locked .... that's no way to live.
abby
Hi Abby @amberpep We lived in Daly City, a suburb of San Francisco, and I know what feeling unsafe is like. I rode the two most dangerous bus lines every day to and from work in the city. I had to walk several blocks to get to and from the bus stop and always stayed alert. Where we live now, we have to worry more about the coyotes than the thugs.
Two boxes is a start, right? I imagine the boxes are labeled. Is there one that has stuff in it that you need? Maybe there's one that has some things in it that have sentimental value. How about finding a couple that would improve your quality of life and think about each thing as you unwrap it and find a place for it. I'll be curious to hear what you find.
Jim
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Hi Abby @amberpep
It is good to hear from you! Nature outside of your window seems to be offering you some breaks from the difficulties you find with the "humans" in your environment. Do you ever take pictures of the view ? I'm sure that as the seasons change you could have a very lovely album of the world outside your window - sounds like a good title for a book, doesn't it?
Keep in touch, we all experience the phenomena that you describe as "just the same old/same old" and we can appreciate what you are experiencing when you say that. We still want to hear from you.
Blessings,
Teresa