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My husband did not take care of his heath and his cancer spread. He wanted to stop treatment and for a year decide let his body do its own thing. Here we are and the cancer has now grown and he is back at treatment which is giving him 50 chance to live. My guild is not feel as compassionate to him as I once one. I'm angry that took away years of my life by constantly compiling about pain and other body functions and doing nothing about it. He also developed severe anxiety and is finally seeking professional help.
I know I'm not in his shoes so the thought of death is driving him mad. I have tried my hardest to recommend items to help with if pain, most time he denies my help because he is afraid something new will hurt him. I feel like i'm no longer his wife, just a care taker. So there is resentment here. I'm totally exhausted because of the anxiety attacks he has all nigh long keep me up. He won't let me sleep in another room, because he is afraid to be alone. If any of this sound familiar ,please post suggestion to help me through this.
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@madlydancing
Oh my goodness! You have quite a difficult situation; my husband also did NOT take care of himself and he’s a retired physician! He knew so I find it difficult to cope with his issues. He had 2 major episodes— EMT— were called and he refused to go to ER; so stroke 3 put him in neuro ICU; anyway—in regards to the anxiety and not allowing you out of his sight; my 90 yr old father did that to my mother after a gallbladder surgery: he would pound on the bathroom door if she was in there and also had night wakings. The dr prescribed low dose Wellbutrin; it helped a lot
though took time to take effect. Best wishes!
Not one moment of my day is pleasant unless my husband is asleep….
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@madlydancing Your life sounds so difficult and sad. Do you have someone who will listen to you? A therapist? Someone who will help you figure out ways to prepare your sons and help you prepare yourself? And you need to deal with your anger. Anger at yourself, your situation and your husband. Please think about getting a therapist.