@danybegood1

Here are some thoughts that I just shared with another member today, @mlbaier. Read through the post and see if it can help you.

Thanks for sharing your feelings with us today. Sometimes, just getting those feelings out in the open can be very helpful. I have learned one thing that I’d like to share with you: When your happiness depends on anyone other than yourself, you are setting yourself up for feeling unhappy. A proactive approach is most important for you right now.

I’d like to share a personal experience with you, the day before a major surgery I was feeling anxious. So I went through my church’s prayer list and sent 3 “thinking of you” cards to people who were on the prayer list. I felt much better after doing that.

Here are some thoughts: I realize that picking yourself up out of depression is easier said than done. Since you said, however, that you wish someone would call you, can you think of anyone that you could call right now and just admit to them that you need a little encouragement today? Or can you think of someone else that you could call who could use some encouragement today? Is it worth a try?

Teresa

@hopeful33250 @danybegood1 Teresa and Dany, When I have had bouts of depression in the past, I feel down that 'no one calls me' ebut yet I make excuses as to why I shouldn't call someone. I would tell myself I would be a bother, they are busy, pretty much any excuse to not reach out to a friend or family member. A therapist had me set goals to become more involved with those around me. I would go to the grocery store and place an order at the deli counter.Then when served, I told that person I appreciated their assistance and wished them a great day. Or I'd ask for help getting something from the top shelf (I'm vertically challenged!) Just the smiles and thank you's made me feel better. so I made the phone call to a long time friend and leave a message if she wasn't there. It wasn't long until I wanted to BE social again. Dany, have you tried any of Teresa's tips? What is one thing that you can do to make your apartment better?Can you add a pretty picture or some flowers?

Hello @danybegood1, I was revisiting your post and thinking about what I said and didn't say. I want to let you know that it was your post that gave me the courage to respond even though I didn't have any answers. There is another active discussion that may interest you:

Nature and It's role in your mental health
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/nature-and-its-role-in-your-mental-health/
I hope you are having a good day.

John