@maryruth7 I have the same dilemma as you. I have had a prolapse for over 4 years and use a pessary; I have been fine. But recently, it’s gotten worse and think I will need a surgery. Odd, It has never caused me any pain, even now I have no pain, but I can feel it and if I do not have the pessary in, the prolapse is to the point it feels as if my bladder is falling out and I cannot urinate at all. Like you, I have read/heard that some women have the surgery and do fine: not much pain, heal quickly, seems to have lasted a long time, and life is normal for them. Then there is the other side: some women have excruciating pain, take far longer than 6 weeks to heal and be able to move around, have urinating/defecating problems, and the surgery did not “take” and they are back to where they started. I do not know whether or not to have the surgery.