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Time to move to retirement home?
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@judimahoney Hi Judi! thanks for your response. Yes, I feel like you - I'm just not sure about a continuing care. I had such high hopes, my husband and I would move into another big, beautiful house. Well, that's not going to happen. Maybe a house but a downsized one, which means, all that stuff in storage. OMG. I woke up at 5 o'clock this morning, totally stressed over that too! And every time, the monthly charge gets taken for all of those units, Oh well, there goes another charge. I think I need to find a house, get my things out of storage, get some level of care if and when my husband needs it, and then when I can no longer take care of him, adjust to Plan B, assisted living for him, where I'm in the nearby house (you talk about). I like that plan. I'd love to be near my son, but I would never see them, and I can't picture living in Texas. I know my husband wouldn't like that. The boat is still sitting in the water, even though he never takes that out. Another challenge in trying to figure out what to do with that. He refuses to sell it.
Oh well, I'm rambling this morning, and I never do that.
Best, Karla
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Hello again. I think I've posted this poem I found on Facebook here before, but it seems appropriate now for all of us feeling overwhelmed:
My grandmother once gave me a tip:
In difficult times, move forward in small steps.
Do what you have to do, but little by little.
Don’t think about the future
or what may happen tomorrow.
Wash the dishes.
Remove the dust.
Write a letter.
Make a soup.
You see?
Advance step by step.
Take a step and stop.
Rest a little.
Praise yourself.
Take another step.
And then another.
You won’t notice, but your steps will grow more and more.
And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying.
Author: Elena Mikhalkova
I decided we are moving next year so have started organizing our things into sell, donate or trash piles.
I also enlisted a family friend to help organize the basement full of tools and machinery that have been in a state of suspended animation for over two years.
Once I made the decision to move and downsize, it was a little easier to tackle something I knew would need to be done before we leave.
My therapist suggested I make a list of all the things I would like help with (even if it probably won't happen). It's a start. That way if anyone (shocker!) offers help, you are ready with your list and can give them an assignment that anyone can tackle without you having to be there (since you are so busy with everything else).
Good luck! 🍀