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Chronic Pain | Last Active: Aug 29, 2017 | Replies (46)Comment receiving replies
Then another thread should start for lonely people and pets. This thread has been for people who have chronic pain and suffering. We are also feeling alone with our pain. But I don't want to hear about pets. This is about people. Make a lonely people column. I am alone with my pain. Do you think my husband or my family really understands having pain every day and trying to live a normal life as possible? Or going out to dinner with friends and sneaking a pain pill into your mouth with out anyone noticing it? Or everyone is having a drink and a good time and you are faking it? This is what this column is about. I feel my pain, no one else can feel it unless they have been through the same thing. My back hurts. I can't even go to one store to look for underwear with out feeling like my back is cracking. When I'm in pain I get overwhelmed and afraid that this time it will not go away. I want to, and am planning on a 4 day trip where we have to fly, and I am afraid that the pain is going to ruin the one vacation I have had in a long time. How much can I put my family through? I have 8 other brothers and sisters. 6 of them won't talk to me because they think I am faking it or using it as an excuse to get out of things until one day I got so mad at them I told them that they could all go to hell.
THESE ARE THINGS I ALWAYS WANTED TO TELL THE CONNECT GROUP BUT DIDN'T BECAUSE I DID NOT WANT TO HOG THE GROUP, I WANTED FEEDBACK ON MY PAIN AND NOW I SHOULD JUST DELETE THE EMAIL? I DON'T THINK SO. THE LONELY PEOPLE SHOULD START THEIR OWN BLOG.
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You're right Marie, everything you just stated is what this thread is for. There are people that I have talked about their dogs because they give them comfort and connecting on that level makes them happy.
Actually was one of the people to bring that to one of the moderators, about the dog talk, but then I thought what the heck now that we have a nonspecific thread to just connect, I would answer someone who obviously adores their pets. I can connect with them on that level and give them a friend. What is wrong with that? I don't understand.
I experience everything you just mentioned above, and I personally don't think you're hogging any thread by talking about it. I truly, truly hate sneaking a pain pill at the table, losing family and friends because of what I'm going through and I don't know how to handle it. I starting to cry just reading about what you wrote, because everything you just said I have gone through too. And I hated it is much is you do. I believe my little dog does give me unconditional love and company when I don't have anybody else's company. I think this can be a way everyone on this list see that not everyone needs the same thing and we can learn to empathize with each other for our differences, and we can support each other in our common problems. I really believe this is an important thread, and none of us should be dictating or putting limitations on what anyone can and can't talk about here. What you just stated above about yourself really touched my heart. I want to feel free for you to say all of that because it really means a lot to me personally, but if someone else wants to talk about their puppy because that means something to them, if we have an open thread why can't they? Why are we telling each other what to do now on an open thread?
I'm so sorry that you are feeling like the odd man out with your family and friends, it's a horrible feeling. I feel exactly the same way sometimes. I would love my old life back but right now it's not feasible, and I have to adapt to what I have. I truly hope and pray that things get better for you and everyone else on this list. We all deserve it, we're all humans and none of us want to be in the situation that were in. Jennifer