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Does anyone feel old and useless with age?
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@tsch
May I second that? When my partner died just a little less than a year ago, my primary, who had known us both, advised that I try a little bereavement counseling. I played my Tough-as-Nails Male Card and said, "What, me? Bereavement counseling? You've got to be kidding, doc!" Well, about a month later, when most of the busyness of being my partner's personal rep had died down, and the hollowness of my new life had set in, I phoned my doc and asked if counseling was still an option. Long story short? I've been going to counseling for the past three months, and I couldn't be more pleased with the results. The proof in the pudding? Hardly a day goes by without one of my friends remarking on how well I appear to be doing. Am I still grieving? You bet! But counseling––or in my case, CBT counseling––has enabled me to manage my grief. I saw how my life was narrowing down, but thanks to counseling, I'm learning how to both re-animate and re-populate my life.
Cheers to everyone here!
Ray (@ray666)
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@ray666
Excellent. You are wise to have counseling. Many men would not be as wise. Losing a partner is awful and life shattering, but with time the grieved one usually learns to live and be happy again, but it takes time, and maybe some work.
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@ray666
G'afternoon, Ray ~
Re-animate and re-populate - wonderful energy there! I also work on that, literally daily, in one form or another. And to be realistic, there will be days when I feel less optimism than others, for any number of reasons - weather, barometer, quality/quantity of sleep, getting overtired especially when feeling almost normal - "Hey! I can do ALL my errands today - I feel great and I'm moving along really well....hardly any pain, even." Then the next day, well...I may not even feel like I'm among the living! But those days are far outnumbered with the ones when I feel blessed beyond description by the presence of God and the wonderful human relationships that He has offered to me and enabled me to enjoy through any number of means. MayoConnect is definitely one. Thinking of you, my friend, and praying for ever-increasing good days in your life!
Barb