@4fs, and all... Wonderful! It sounds like you have excellent support through the Courage Center. What a marvelous gift to your family. Was it available 19 years ago? I that when you were having the most difficult years? If this help was available that long ago, I'm amazed! We had and still don't have anything similar to help parents and adult children with these horrors.
My son at times puts himself in difficult situations due to lack of focus, too much focus on his immediate concern, or poor judgement. It makes sense to him at the time, but often, very often he creates his own difficult situations by pushing on without taking time to consider all the circumstances, possibilities. Tough for him and for me. I am the one who deals then with the overflow of garbage from whatever he did... That is lessening some now through our increased ability to understand each other. I'm learning better ways to help him understand what I'm saying or suggesting. Or, simply expressing it in his new language?

Whatever, we are improving much as I am quieter, listen without attempting to have discussions. Listen. That, my friend, can be so difficult, eh?

Glad to hear you're getting help and support and moving forward.
Blessings. Elizabeth