@gloaming
You are most welcome! Honestly, I can't imagine myself living with either of my children. If it comes to that, the decision would have taken out of my hands. I've toyed with the idea of a roommate situation but reality quickly hit when just over this past weekend, a friend suggested she come live with me - to help me out - and said it would benefit both of us. Quickly and kindly declined the offer before realized I had done it. She talks incessantly, lives in the past, is needy and our values are too different. I don't want the responsibility of trying to make someone else happy and that's how I feel around her.
These conversations are really helping guide me towards what I need to do for me. Thanks everyone. Really appreciate it!

@gloaming I have a right leg neuropathy, which impacts my balance. I live in a northern state that gets a lot of snow. My son and his family live in Florida. They very kindly invite me to come for Jan, Feb, and mid-March so I’m not a “prisoner” in my home with the snow, ice , and slush. But, by March I’m more than ready to come home.
If you don’t HAVE to move in with an adult child, I don’t recommend it, unless there is a separate in-law apartment. You very quickly “lose” yourself and your preferences in the reality of being a guest in their home and the necessity therefore of fitting into their way of doing things.
From little things like their preference for the way to load the dishwasher to big things like I don’t like to sit on the sofas or easy chairs due to dog and cat hair, but I don’t want to vacuum them as that would be an insult to the level of cleaning my DIL prefers. I do quietly scrub the bathroom I share.
The two younger ones are still excited to interact with grandma, but the two olders are busy with friends and screens. I am grateful to enjoy the Florida sunshine, especially when my brother sends photos of big snow drifts.