@pml I have contacted the state. They did go to the facility. However becuz my complaint was anonymous they can’t tell me anything. But I did it becuz of the way they treat both of us. They are downright nasty to me. Every time I complained they either ignored me or came back with their memorized speeches. Now I wish I wouldn’t have been anonymous becuz then if the situation got worse sll I had to do was contact the state. Wasn’t thinking but when you’re so upset it’s hard to keep your head together He’s been gone 3 years and it feels like yesterday to me. I have never get so alone in my life! It’s imperative that I talk to his dr. I can’t find any contact info. I have talked to him about moving but it took him so long to get adjusted I’d hate to disrupt him like that. It would be so much harder since his diseases have worsened. Vascular dementia has. 3 - 5 year mortality rate. Like I said he’s at 3 years and I am terrified. Terrified that Hess gonna forget e and even worse not be able to swallow. He is such a good man. Why did this happen to him. To us. We have been together for 39 years and have never been able to have a moral marriage. And that really sucks!