We deal with the insanity of the disease by ........ we adapt. adapt. adapt. UCHealth.org has an article out about dementia resources: how to communicate and have meaningful connections with some with dementia. The adapt. adapt. adapt. is highlighted in this piece. Put together a duplicate bag of the things your wife keeps losing and when she gets "frantic" provide her with what you have. Hopefully, that will calm her until you can find her original belongings OR set up a box marked with her name that she puts everything in. And put a pretty photo of her on the box or something meaningful to her so she knows it's hers. That's what we're doing here at my house right now (I have the 900 pound tuna he got at Cape Cod on his box!
I'm sure you've already thought of this! Best, Karla