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Dealing with a Spouse with a “Mild Cognitive Impairment”
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: 2 days ago | Replies (731)Comment receiving replies
@defleurs I’m not a caregiver type either. And you’re not kidding, it’s hard!!! I find that when I try to have a conversation with him (yes, I get fooled into trying to pretend he’s himself) he usually has no response at all and I always say “ Did you hear me?” & he says yes and I ask why he didn’t respond- no response or “I didn’t know I was supposed to answer.” It’s very lonely losing your loved one in this way.
Wishing you well,
Linda
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@lkbous My husband has memory loss, 7 or so years, and some dementia. I learned early to avoid trying to correct the way he remembers - or forgets - events. For my husband's state of mind comfort and to know his thoughts and words count, I listen, I agree, and try not to make him know what is real.
There are plenty of good times during the day, enjoying meals, television, a short walk, sitting on the porch watching the neighborhood. Best thing I can do is make life feel good. He has blood cancer and no kidneys; four days each week at either dialysis or blood transfusions.
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@lkbous I know exactly what you are going through. I live my life and just go about my business but I am extremely lonely. My husband does not talk at all. It is impossible to have a conversation Thankfully I have lots of girlfriends. I try not to discuss with my kids. They are busy with their young families. Last night we were in the car and he didn’t say a word for two hours. I know longer even try. I put my headphones on and listen to a book which he is fine with so he can control the music