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Not freaking good I am sad and ashamed to report. Today, at this point, I feel like I am losing myself really. Mother-in-law is driving me absolutely crazy!! My husband just had another CT scan on July 21st. We won't technically know anything of course until his head oncologist looks it over and he goes in for his next infusion on 7/28. I looked at it, some stuff is stable while now there's mention of a Parastomal Hernia measuring 8.0 × 3.7 cm. He already had double hernia repair surgery in April 2024!! Also there's some lymph nodes that have grown in size. If it weren't for having to care for & honestly just put up with his grumpy, argumentative, she's always the victim, only thinks of herself and today I overheard her talking with a friend on the phone saying " I don't know when they are going to let me go home, he's gotta let me soon because I need to." I heard her and said actually it is not us making that decision, it's your doctors. She in a bitch tone said " What doctor", I replied " All of your doctors and also every specialist that you've been referred to and seen." She just mumbled talking smack to her friend back to her room to close the door & spread her crazy lies in solitude!! Also thank you so much for asking me how I am doing.
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@warriorwife1981 I can give you a huge virtual hug ❤️🩹 I wish I could share some experiences from my stage 4 cancer that are similar to your husband’s to help you both. Nothing similar other than understanding the uncertainty, the fear, the anxiety around treatments and the hard slog of going through the treatments. And how much it all takes out of you and those who love you and support you.
To have your MIL and her attitude in the mix is amazing.
I wonder if it might help posting in some other sub groups on the different aspects that make up your husbands current battles to piece together parts of the puzzle? Hopefully in another sub group you’ll find someone closer to your husbands situation.
All I can also say without helpful experience myself to share is that you need help stat with your MIL! As if you didn’t have enough to deal with handling your husband’s needs! You’re the only one keeping the train on the track and if you go down, well …..
Can you talk to any of her friends and see if they can help have her to stay to give you all a break? Does your husband have any other family who can also provide meaningful care and support to your MIL? We’re going through something similar with my father who has early to mid stage dementia and we need to spread the responsibilities as they can be heavy even when he doesn’t talk smack about us!
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@warriorwife1981, oh gosh. I'm just catching up with your recent post now. That's a lot to manage with your mother-in-law and dealing with the unknowns of your husband's condition.
You might appreciate the support in this related discussion:
- Caregiver for stroke patient: Anyone experiencing burnout?https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/caregiver-3/
I think you had an appointment with your husband's oncologist recently to go over the results of the CT scan. What did you find out? What's next?