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The Science of Caregiving: Bringing Voices Together Conference
Caregivers | Last Active: Oct 11, 2017 | Replies (4)Comment receiving replies
Hi indie Scott, today I attended a workshop call “physical well-being “ by the West Australian carers assoc., 4 hours of women complaining, stressed, some at terry eyed point, I came home feeling worse. They talked about isolation, ignored by friends and family, misunderstood, no pay involved, and the worst but poignant words were “a lost sense of self”. I came home, with a resentment toward my husband that I’ve been really trying to let go of. Truth is I hope to seperate from his emotional abuse then neglect, within the next few months. I have had enough and can no longer cope with being used this way. I feel not only used by my husband but also by a govt system that’s finding a cheap way out of dealing with the aging population, and that topic was brought up by the women as well. That’s a new resentment for me. It’s almost funny in a sick sort of way. Meanwhile this precious life passes by , each day , with living with a man who’s become a cold stranger , unless it suits him. I pray for the strength to leave and for each day for God to show me the way out of this relationship. Thank you for letting me get this out.
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good day @mnina Good to hear from you and, while this may sound peculiar, I am happy you feel comfortable enough to 'get this out' here at Connect! Oftentimes just saying (typing) something helps me cope. That said it is unfortunate you find yourself in your situation. I wish there were some magic words that would help. Oz is ahead of the US in so many areas, it is tough to hear it is not so with caregiving.
It saddens me to hear the struggles of caregivers is truly so worldwide. The same feelings, pain, words, etc. It is mind numbing to think so few are actually thinking about this area of overwhelming need by so very many -- and a need while given basic demographics will only be increasing!
I understand the feelings of being crushed by caregiving. I truly do. While I loved my wife with a deep and abiding love, there were those days when all I could think of was NOT caregiving! The never ending cycle of demands and often times lack of appreciation was an incredible burden. Again, in our case, I knew my wife had no available alternative should I not have been her carer, so on I went.
Stay in touch -- and I will hold you in my thoughts for sure!
Continued strength, courage, and peace!