@rasasarabis Your plate is so very full and likely somewhat lonely, too. So difficult to watch our loved ones fade away and really struggle as their health deteriorates. My husband is 85, dementia and CHF that is rapidly progressing. I, too, feel so much guilt and look back on the last dozen or so years and think that wasn't so bad. Even then though I was fustrated and complaining the entire time. Forgive yourself, accpt we cannot change the past and then move on. You are there for her now when she needs you the most.