This is to all who wrote to“the Caregivers Dumpster “. I just want to please be heard.
I am my husband’s only caregiver. He is still independent for most of his needs, but doesn’t really want to see to them. He doesn’t want to bathe, etc. He just wants to sit and watch every step I take, or sit and sleep. He won’t wear his hearing aids. Doesn’t offer to help himself, or me, in any way. I am the only one to take care of him, and everything else. I am having a hard time with a health problem of my own. No help. Only very brief stop bys, by family members, as they are on their way somewhere else . They take care of grands, so their kids can do things. They go on trips, even fairly extended ones, with friends. But, never “you take a day off, and go do something you’d like.” I am invisible, a nobody. But, very important to be here. Even the doctor, who we use, and have faith in, said, “I know it’s a challenge”. But where am I in all this ? And, when it’s “my turn”, there will be no one to take care of me.