You certainly have a lot on your plate. Your devotion is admirable, but I would seriously consider the feasibility of full time around the clock care for a person who has cognitive decline and serious medical issues. I did it for my dad, until his death and my mom, after a post covid syndrome diagnosis for a couple of years. I worked in my job too. I fortunately didn’t have fatigue as a symptom. But still, I suffered as a result of the undue stress it provided. Caregiving around the clock is an enormous responsibility. Have you considered an assessment to determine what level of care your husband currently needs? Do you know his prognosis? I’d seek info on your options.

It’s good to get the perspective of others who have had similar experiences. There are lots of posts around here of what it’s like. It’s challenging even for the able bodied.

Everyone is different, but if someone isn’t mobile or is resistant to care, it can be a truly exhausting ordeal. I’d get outside home help to come in to help on a regular basis. We had 2 different home care companies. One was available 24/7 to come at a moment’s notice in the middle of the night. We had someone who came to do housework and anything else we needed. I’d plan ahead for Hospice too. We suddenly realized we needed a hospital bed because my dad could not move in the bed. When someone keeps falling or can’t move in the bed….it’s a stressful situation for the patient and the caregiver.

I know it was appreciated, but in retrospect, I would not do it again. I am much improved from my post covid symptoms now, despite my experience. I hope you get relief too. Good luck with everything for you and your family.