@colleenyoung Yes. A great idea. I carry guilt from caring for my mom & sister. My mom fell & broke her hip, @ 91, on my watch. Every morning , about 6 am ,i got up to make coffee & start the day. As i came downstairs , i passed her room & knowing she was very light sleeper,i would say quietly, “its just me. Its very early. Dont get up yet. Ill be back about 40 minutes”. It wouldnt wake her at the volume i was speaking,so when she answered”okay” i knew she was already waking up. After i came back down to start the day,i found her on the floor! She had fell going to the rest room & broke her hip badly. She wasnt crying or hollering. She was very quiet & unnaturally unconcerned. She got an operation and all seemed well,but she wasnt hersef again. Its my belief she had a stroke & fell. She had,had a stoke a couple of years earlier & we recognized it & rushed her to the hospital. I dont think the doctors caught it, this trip. She was before the fall, able to converse, watch tv ,walk with no issues , & was nice to be around,but now after, she acted like she couldnt understand people, didn't talk much, couldnt folliw directions to do the nessasary things to heal from such an awful break. ,etc. She eventually passed 1 year later, in a residential hospital. She was 92. My guilt is great just because I was powerless to help my mom. I feel I should have gone in at 6am & made sure she didnt fall. I tell myself maybe then she’d still be with us. I go around & around in my head of what i could have done differently. Im crying just typing this.The guilt is real and it never lets up. Im caring now for my sister,who is 72. She has dementia so bad she sputters instead of speaking because she cannot find her words. She slams things when shes mad & sometimes hits me with an object if she gets frustrated. I have severe rheumatoid arthritis,my hands are crippled now. She gets agitated & frustrated if i cannot show her how things work. Occasionally,when she strikes me with something or pounds on the dashboard when im taking her somewhere in the car, I get irritated & raise my voice to her. She will pout,then apologize. I feel terrible i hollered. I understand and follow the fact that she means none of it. She is interacting the only way she can. I love my mother & my sister,very much. Im so afraid ill lose her. The Guilt is real.