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Maybe I should not post this I don't know but tell me if I am off base.
I love that I have tanks to take me out! I love that I could do more for longer than without the tanks.
I don't care what people think and i too find most people simply care a lot!
The part I am wondering if I should say is this: Two years ago my husband died. This year my son died. I would give anything to have them back! I have anxiety that keeps me in at this time and I hate depression!
My idea is to say Be grateful you can go out and about ! Enjoy every moment you can!
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@punkybauer I really dislike that our current culture doesn't acknowledge loss and grief -- whether it's from aging, illness, loss of a loved one (including pets!) or something else. Grieving is natural and shows how we valued the person or situation we've lost. It's culturally approved to be 'strong' than to admit weakness of any kind, for instance. How completely unrealistic is that, right? We have to start with ourselves, forgiving ourselves for harm we've done, knowingly or unknowingly, for not being the person we think we should be, and, as you've said, recognizing what we do have and how hard we've tried to be whatever we think we should be. If we treat ourselves poorly it's much harder to feel kindness and compassion toward others, as well. And, because I love Mary Oliver, here's an excerpt from one of her morning poems:
"it is a serious thing
just to be alive
on this fresh morning
in the broken world."
Bless you and I hope your day will be a good one.
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@punkybauer thank you for your comments. You point out that being grateful for what we have is so important. I am so sorry to hear that you lost your husband and son.