Oh girl! I feel your pain. I feel exactly the same way. When I do go out, it's hard to socialize and be actually joyful because of pain....the pain that no one else can feel or completely understand how it can be so bad.
I am psyching myself up with strategies to tolerate a 2 day away from home family reunion with lots of driving.
Deep breathing and meditative mental imagery are some of my strategies. It may be the last time I see my 95 year old father (in law) so I have to be really strong. I am doing it for him as I am a daughter to him.